This post is so gay

I’ll be upfront and honest.  I support gay rights.  I’m “pro-gay” if you will.  I’m straight, and a (somewhat) practicing Catholic.  I believe that God loves everyone, regardless of your sexual preference.  But I do believe that people who are gay should have the right to marry.  I believe that it’s a basic human right and shouldn’t be voted on.

Why?  The answer is simple.  Gays should suffer just like the rest of us.  Look, I love my wife and she loves me.  But show me one married couple that hasn’t said to themselves (or someone else) “What in the !@#$%is WRONG with HIM/HER?”  My wife drives me crazy, and I drive her crazy.  But we took a vow in front of God and our family and friends that said we’d stick together throughout the good times and the bad times and if we separate, then we have to go through a long painful process that now is even MORE complicated due to our daughter.  Why should straight people only go through a process where if someone makes a ton of money while they’re together, their spouse entitled to half of that.  A good friend of mine and his wife divorced within the past year.  He’s in the army and she is not anymore, so he gave her custody of her two children.  Despite the fact that he is an active member of the Army and has been deployed multiple times for his country, because she has the kids, she is entitled to over half of his salary which isn’t much as it is.  I understand she has to take care of them and provide for them, don’t get me wrong, but she took him to the cleaners.  Why should straight people have the exclusive right to go through this heart wrenching decision?

At the same time, gay people deserve to be happy too.  I am very happy with my wife and together with our daughter we have a lot of laughs.  We had a lot of laughs before our daughter was born too.  Why can’t gays share this joy?  Because they are attracted to people of the same sex (or both sexes for those that are bi)? Baloney.

I’ve heard the argument that homosexuality “is a choice.”  I just don’t buy it.  Why?  I look at it from a couple of angles:  1) I am attracted to women.  I chose to date my wife, I chose to ask her to marry me, and I chose to go through with my proposal (literally).  I don’t think I have it in me to look at another man and say “wow.  He’s really hot.  I could see myself dating him.”  2) There are some that say that “God has a plan” and whatever happens in your life, it is because God wants it that way.  OK, fair enough.  So with gays, did God just forget about them, or are we not counting them?  Why can’t it be that God chose those two men, or two women to be together?

Remember, God loves you – but only if you’re straight!